We sometimes think that we can’t do enough to help others when we see such great needs out there. In this age of division and partisanship, patience and understanding can be a gift. On a personal level, it is often the little things, the small kindnesses and acknowledgments that make people feel seen and cared about.
This holiday season, whether we celebrate Christmas or Hannukah, the spirit of giving is not just about the material gifts, but more importantly, the giving of self that can deeply touch others and live in our hearts and minds long afterwards.
There are many simple, small acts of kindness that can let someone know that they matter.
In my yoga classes at the YMCA, one can feel a part of a community every time someone offers to put away your block if you are carrying too many things or need to leave early. Or the way new people are made to feel welcome by the instructor or by a nearby student.
When walking on the beach or in nature, I can’t help but notice when someone is trying to either take a selfie, squeezing a few people in it, or taking a large group photo and being the one left out of what will become a special memory later. I love offering, “May I take that photo for you?” Last week, it happened to me. A few people had bult an adorable ‘snowman’ out of sand, and I wanted to take a photo of it. One of the women came over to ask if I would like to get a picture of ourselves with it. “Absolutely, thank you, that would be great”! And the photo makes me smile.
There are many ways to make life feel less stressful. Driving during ‘season’, patience can be an act of kindness and offer opportunities to lighten someone’s day. Francesco lets drivers in with a smile and a wave, appreciating the returned wave of thanks for this courtesy. He also loves to freely share his music.
Some people have a natural way of noticing others and finding a way to make them feel appreciated. My friend Adie notices someone who seems lonely and talks with them, or brings people together to help support someone’s business. No one can feel like an outsider in her presence.
And living in a condo complex doesn’t guarantee that people feel connected. As a gift to neighbors at Halloween, Judi and Nancy (and her little pup), dressed in adorable costumes, went door to door, doing a reversal of the custom of “trick or treat”, by bringing snacks and smiles to those of us lucky to be home.
How easy would it be to secretly leave a card, a note or a little gift at someone’s door, especially if they are alone or not well? And if we can’t be there in person, the internet offers fun opportunities to send ecards or messages. We all need to know that there are people in the world who are kinder, more caring than we might witness in the nightly news. It’s the little things that often bring a spark of joy or help others to feel cared about, whether it be from friends, family or total strangers. Life is too short to miss out on times to share love. Are there ways that you like to express your kindness to others?
I so appreciate my connection to each of you. I wish you and your loved ones a beautiful and loving holiday season and a happy and healthy New Year in whatever ways matter most.
With love and gratitude,
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